Take it seriously when they say they are getting bullied before it gets worse, especially when they are Children. Because the effects of bullying are severe. It makes people upset. It can make them feel lonely, unhappy and frightened; it gets more complicated with children. It can make them feel unsafe and think there must be something wrong with them. Children can lose confidence and may not want to go to school anymore. It may even make them sick. A person might bottle up their emotions and try not to let it show to their friends or family. It can be hard for someone to feel all those things and try to keep it to themselves and often as a result their behavior may change. They may show their feelings in other ways and know the signs to look out is really important. We often ask young people how they think the behavior would show itself if someone bottled up how they really felt. They felt that a person may: Self-harm, Feel depressed, Withdraw socially and stop going out, Avoid social media or messenger, Feel anxious about going to school, Be very angry and be aggressive, Bully others, Develop an eating disorder, Turn to drinking or taking drugs.
Bullying can have severe effect on learning. Stress and anxiety caused by bullying and harassment can make it more difficult for kids to learn. It can cause difficulty in concentration and decrease their ability to focus, which affects their ability to remember things they have learned. Bullying is painful and humiliating, and kids who are bullied feel embarrassed, battered and shamed. If the pain is not relieved, bullying can even lead to consideration of suicide or violent behavior. We are most prone to Bullying when a change takes place in our lives. New people in the new environment try to isolate us to validate their existence. In children, Bullies stop when adults are around. There is a correlation between increased supervision and decreased bullying.
Some people think bullying is just part of growing up and a way for young people to learn to stick up for themselves like my Teachers thought. But bullying can have long-term physical and psychological consequences. If bullying isn’t stopped, it also hurts the bystanders, as well as the person who bullies others. Bystanders are afraid they could be the next victim. Even if they feel badly for the person being bullied, they avoid getting involved in order to protect themselves or because they aren’t sure what to do.
Why do they bully?
It is hard to fully understand the reasons behind why people feel the need to bully others. Some of the more common reasons are:
- Attention seeking behaviour, doesn’t matter if it is positive or negative.
- Might be a need for them to think they can get what they want from being a bullying.
- To impress others and think they are gaining respect and popularity amongst their peers
- To punish people they are jealous or envious of, so targeting them for bullying.
- Because others are doing it and they too afraid to speak up.
- They may have low self-esteem, confidence and possible anger issues.
- Been bullied themselves.
Whatever the reasons may be, it does not give anyone the right to make others feel low or bully others to make themselves feel better.
“Bringing you down commenting on everything you do trying to be better than you controlling over you.”