As social beings, we always strive to have some kind of inner happiness to make us move forward, which is why we go on living. Or is it? While it may not be everyone’s ultimate goal in life, people still try to be happy in every way possible. It may come in different forms: Impress someone. Achieve some financial goals. Meditate and go to the Himalayas just to find happiness. Guess what? You may never find it. In this article, we will focus on some top 10 reasons you may never be happy in life.
Top 10 Reasons Why You May Never Be Happy
You Always Compare
When it comes to comparison, there are different forms of it. One of them and the most unforgivable one is to compare yourself with other people. It will lead to an endless cycle, and you will find out that you will never get the satisfaction from what you seek because there is always someone who is better than you in what you do and what you want to achieve.
The second one is comparing everything in your life. In that case, you may compare the new people coming into your life to those who have been in and left it. That is an unbelievably unhealthy way of dealing with things and will always lead to the great depression in life. Also, it will prevent you from enjoying the things and people in your life as they are. You should always remember that every moment is unique in its way, just like people.
You Want to Impress People to be happy
Another unbelievably big mistake in life is always trying to please other people. One thing is for sure: there is no way of pleasing everyone. The sooner you find this out; the better life becomes for you. No matter what, there will always be some people underestimating you and what you do. And you have to remember that other people’s opinions about what you do are not in your control, so why bother?
You Are Addicted to Something/Someone
Having an addiction is one of the shortest ways to achieve unhappiness. This addiction will capture you inside, and you will always want a bit more. Let it be casino, drugs, or watching sports games or TV shows/movies. This kind of addiction will eventually lead to a big disappointment and hollow feeling alongside comparisons you make inside.
Also, people feel extremely attached to some people. Sometimes, it may bring a period of joy and happiness, but in most cases, it ends in tears as people are becoming more and more careless as the years pass. So, the result (in most cases) is the same melancholy and darkness.
Do you think about your actions or what happened to you in the past overnight? Does it sound familiar to you? So you suffer from the same thing as millions of people all over the world: overthinking. As the modern world’s living conditions become more stressful, it becomes more and more normal for people to never feel enough. You just need to be more relaxed and focus on the moment because nothing can change about the past. However, if you start changing from today, the results would fascinate from now on.
You Are Stuck in the Past
Normally, it comes down to overthinking at some point, but living with your past in your mind all the time is another ball game. You always want your past back, and no matter how painful it was, you tend to remember it better than it was, just to make you feel more secure about your present. And nostalgia is one of the most deceiving feelings in the world.
You Are too Much into Science
As we see science as a way to escape from the fairytales of religions and pseudoscience, it may not lead to happiness at all. Many studies have shown that knowing more and more about our world is associated with nihilism and unescapable depression, eventually. People with higher IQ tend to be more melancholic and depressive most times. Learning science is good, in fact, too good.
As Richard Dawkins said, “knowing the science behind the rainbow does not make it any less beautiful.” But you may consider science as a way of finding answers to your questions without going too deep into it, or you will face depression, eventually.
Thinking About Death All the Time
Thinking about the deaths of you and your loved ones will make you look older than you are. Because everyone is alone and clueless about life, and everybody is going to die. So, why thinking about it even before it happens? As we know the inevitable, there is no way other than just focusing on our lives and the people in them.
You Are Trying to Prove Yourself to Others
One of the most meaningless moments in life is to prove yourself to other people. You want to be valued, to be wanted and loved, and that is a normal thing. But the only person in the world you should be proving yourself to is yourself. When people focus on themselves and set goals to accomplish privately, they become more ambitious, and it always gives them something to hope for in life.
You Expect People to Bring Happiness
One thing for sure: no one brings happiness to your life. If you are not happy with yourself, there is no way someone else would do it for you. Generally, people expect it from the opposite gender. Guess what? That will definitely not happen.
In most cases, that comes from the fear of loneliness and melancholy. But it will end up in a toxic relationship if you seek happiness from someone. And as you load meanings to your relationships more, it will make the other people feel tired of you.
You Want Happiness
It sounds like a paradox, right? However, it is one of the most basic rules in life. If you are looking for happiness and want to achieve it, you will probably never find it because life is all about searching for meaning, happiness, and the next stop. Thinking that you will find happiness because of that person, that dream job, that money, that country, and that list of things is just naïve, and it will never happen. So what is left for you after reading the top 10 reasons you may never be happy? As 2020 taught us, everything is temporary, and there is just no meaning in focusing on things in the long-term. Just enjoy the little things, boost your adrenaline, stay happy, eat healthily, have deep conversations, and relax with a deep breath.